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question about conflict - 2006/10/03 16:18 i have a question....

when there's a conflict at work, i sometimes get a very stressed feeling in my stomach. so it makes me avoid conflict at all costs. what can i do to keep conflict from happening? is it just inevitable?
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Re:question about conflict - 2006/10/04 14:49 I think the problem is in your mind. Reason out, and try to convince yourself that stress is a way of life, and a degree of stress is very essencial for progress in life. To start with, when confronted with a problem or conflict situation, just close your eyes, take a couple of deep breaths, and relax for a while before working out your course of action. Incidentally, YOGA has proved to be a great stress buster. So is faith and spirituality.
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Re:question about conflict - 2006/10/05 20:33 Seeker,
Stress is one way we feel what is really fear. If you can tackle that fear you feel, you'll be well on your way to overcoming the stress. Analyze, if you can, what in each situation is making you fearful. Is it the people you’re dealing with, the situation, your abilities or inabilities? Get to know yourself and the reason for the stressful feeling. Then analyze whether that fear is really grounded. What are you afraid will happen? Would it really happen? Or is that just what others are thinking? The more you know about your self and your feelings, the better off you’ll be.

Having said that, if there is anyway you can picture these people as honest, loving individuals such as yourself, you will begin to see their actions as better too. Standing up for love and integrity in the workplace puts you in a position to see them expressed toward you, and will also put a spotlight on what is wrong there and help it get corrected.

And lastly, whatever principle of good that gave you that job, is still at work. Know that you are not hurt by the actions of others. You only suffer for wrong actions of your own, (and that, for only as long as those wrong actions continue.) So, if you can, be loving, patient with others on the job, and expect to see love and patience towards you too. And don’t be afraid to change jobs if that is what is best to do for your situation. That principle of good is active on your way to your next job too.
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Re:question about conflict - 2006/10/06 16:01 these are good ideas, thank you.

sew, i think what it really is is i don't like conflict itself. it's worse with people i really like, i don't have a problem seeing everyone else as good. i just don't like disagreements or friction.

so i try to take a breath and release my tension before responding. it's more like, how can i keep from seeing things as conflicts when they don't have to be? maybe just seeing conflict is my problem, so i avoid it. but then things don't get resolved and they really do become conflicts.

i don't like it when people i like get mad at me....
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Re:question about conflict - 2006/10/13 12:39 This is true but i think the solution to this problem would be to re-think all over again and try to find out if you were actually the one who caused the conflict.It may not be yourself but try also to find out why the conflict rose.From here you will be able to find the solution as to why the conflict rose.

The second step is you must be aware that in life conflict are bound to happen and in each undertaking we must be very careful not cause conflict.
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Re:question about conflict - 2006/10/31 17:42 I'm intrigued by this discussion of conflict. Is conflict something to be avoided, or does it have a place?
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