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gigi6
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Click here to see the profile of this user 		relationships when you work alone - 2006/04/04 18:51 So, i work out of a home office, have a good number of clients (sometimes it feels too many!) and a few 'associates' who work remotely.

But for the better part of my week, i may be emailing people and have the occasional phone conversation, but for the most part it is just me, myself and I. Being a social animal for the most part, i also really enjoy me time, but more so when i can be reading etc. I am finding working in such a solitary state is presenting challenges that i hadn't really considered relevant to me.

I am confident, happy and well rounded as a person, so it is interesting and not a little bit scarry to see how i must really work not to let myself get down during the day.

I try to focus each morning, or when i need a quick break, on the source of my ideas, talents, creativity and abilities, but haven't really given the "joy and dominion" side of things a look in a while.

anyone have some good ideas about this sort of thing? I find especially when i have taken on a new task, that my confidence gets a little shakey as there is noone to say, yes, this is right, before i send to clients, or things go live on the internet...

love to hear!
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Click here to see the profile of this user 		Re:relationships when you work alone - 2006/04/04 20:53 Hi gigi6 -- your post made me think about what i do, cuz a lot of your post sounded like me! when i headed up my own company (of about 20 people) i was way more "independent" than i am now. And yet now i work "independently"! IOW, before, i made a lot of decisions "on my own" because i thought i was supposed to. Only in the last job i had (i was the head honcho) did i see the strength in relying on a network of buddies and input to come to a "collegial" decision. Still, many final decisions were mine to make, but i really liked and relyed on the input of others. And i enjoyed doing the same for other managers too. Now that i am on my own, I still operate similarly. I have small (informal) teams of people that i run stuff by, talk about decisions -- they are my sounding board. And i do the same for them. Using email, Skype, IM -- we are each other's teammates. You know, i just realized that while they help me, i get as much out of helping them! It's kind of like that verse from the BIble (2 Cor 8:14): "...now at this time your abundance may be a supply for their want, that their abundance also may be a supply for your want: that there may be equality"

hope this helps! Chris
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Kim
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 Re:relationships when you work alone - 2006/04/14 05:40 Hi -

I certainly could relate to your situation. I've gone from being a part of an international team to going solo. Although getting used to not having to have projects approved didn't take long, it did take a while to get used to being on my own most of the time.

I put together two virtual offices - one using IM and one using skype. The people in these two offices are clients, mentors and former colleagues, and I am in touch with some of them everyday.

It is comforting to be able to see who is in my "office" at any one time.

I also take walks when I need to refresh my thought and pray about certain things. The fresh air and change of scenery help.

All the best to your new venture! Hope that helps!
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Connie
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 Re:relationships when you work alone - 2006/04/14 22:30 I too can relate. My husband has moved ahead of me to another state. I will be joining him in June. For the past six months I have been alone, working at home.

After a few weeks, I found myself quite depressed, - an emotion that I've never had a problem with. Then one day it dawned on me that this time was a divine gift and I needed to appreciate what had been given me. I realized this was the only time in 37 years of marriage that I was alone with time to focus on my growth and development without having to consider others.

For the first time, I take long daily walks at a nearby park and quietly meditate and pray for myself and my world. This has been an invaluable opportunity to meet wonderful people and share ideas!

Biggest lesson is learning to develop the discipline of thought to stop and recognize that each day is a gift and not to be missed by any limiting, preconceived notion of what is fulfilling.
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